1. Do You Nag At Him...Not Talk To Him?
If he's not listening to you there is a reason. What have you been saying the last few times you've talked to him? If you have a habit of nagging please quit now. “A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. (Prov.27:15 New Living Translation) Nagging isn't just fussing, and yelling, it's also categorized by trying to tell a man what to do. Sound familiar? Let me help you.... “Tom! You Need To” or “Tom! I'm So Tired Of” ... then the list begins. This will often cause a wall to build up, which begins to block effective communication between you and your spouse. For most men, the more you TELL THEM what to do, the higher the wall gets and they won't listen. Most men don't like to be bossed around like their some kid, you could start to remind them of their mother. Real men like to lead because that's the position that God gave them.
2. Majority of Your Conversations Are Negative
The word says (to do him Good all the days of Your Life) (ref. Prov.) Beloved, if you constantly remind him of the things his doing wrong in the relationship why would he want to keep engaging in conversations with you? I'm not saying you should never tell a man when he's wrong. What I am saying is that the timing should be right, so you're not just talking to the walls but he's actually listening. Throughout the day encourage your man and tell him some positive things about him.
3. You're Always the VICTIM
This was a problem that I had in my marriage. I was always the victim in every argument.... I was never to blame for anything. Ladies, we can't always be right in every situation. When we are wrong we should admit it, and be woman enough to apologize to our man if we were wrong. “....and you will know the truth and the truth will set you free” (Prov. 8: 32)
4. You Point Out His Weakness...But Don't Offer to Help Him
If your suppose to be his help meet, help him become a better man. A good helpmeet can make a mediocre man appear as if he had a crown on his head, just by helping him succeed. (Prov. 12:4) Beloved, offer to help your mate, remember you have the power to build or tear down your house. (Prov.14:1) The only reason you should ever look down on your husband is when your offering a hand to help him back up.
5. Are You Speaking At The Right Time?
Timing is one of the key factors to effective communication. “There is a time for everything under the sun,” (Ecc. 3:1) Beloved, if you try to start a conversation and he says, “Not right now.” Please listen, he is basically saying this is not the right timing. If you decide to go in anyway and start talking, you will probably be repeating this conversation again because HE IS NOT LISTENING. When he says not right now, beloved don't get offended. One of the characteristics of a Godly women is to be chase- the ability to make wise decisions. (Titus 2:4) Choose to discuss the situation at another time unless it is urgent.
When a man walks through the door from work this is usually bad timing to try and have a meaningful conversation. Usually men want to come home to relaxation after a hard day at work. This would not be the appropriate time to tell him all the bills that are due, or dump information on him about everybody who called for him...etc... Give your man some time to relax so the information he receives can be processed.
I hope you found this information helpful, and if he's not listening remember there is always a reason...